Because I am no one special and I do not hold a degree in psychology YET I rarely talk about my story or give advice. Depression is a real thing it is not just about you being down in the dumps over your career, lose of a girl or boy friend or even your parents. It is about how you react to the person in the mirror. Is she someone that makes you smile or just puts you in the mood to cover the mirror with a black cloth?
No one can tell you how you should be feeling about anything that is going on in your world. No man has that kind of control on this earth. Depression does not come with a warning label for you so that you can prepare yourself. Depression and grief go hand and hand. No one can tell you how long to grieve someone that you lost. It will be 2 years this October that my mother died of cancer. Both July (her birth month) and October (her death month) are 2 months I wish would be eradicated off the calendar. They are the longest and hardest months for me to get through. And to top that off I really have no one that I can talk to about how I feel. Yes, I can talk to my brother, but he is grieving too. My spouse lets just say that he will turn my grief into his moment and I over all that jazz.
Sometimes you want someone to just listen NOT talk. Someone to not offer their opinion. Someone to not just give you platitudes they think will be a comfort to you. Most times all a person that is depressed and going through is for you to listen.
When it comes to the things that I do when I am going through are 1. I pray and meditate 2. I color in my Wonder Woman coloring book or the painting app on my phone 3. Read a good book 4. Take myself out and buy myself something 5. Blast my music and dance till I drop. After I do all these things I shower, pray some more and go to bed. I am in no way saying that if you do my steps that they will work for you – With the exception of prayer does wonders. You have dig deep and find out what makes you smile from ear to ear. Something that makes your soul sing and your heart flutter.
Only you can take care of yourself. Only you can love yourself the way you need and deserve. ONLY YOU!