It does not matter where you live in this world beauty standards can actually bring harm to those that do not meet the criteria. In a world where photo shopping and fat shaming is the norm for YouTubers and the general public it is hard for a regular person to “fit in”. In a world where super models are the size of twig. So when there were models that had some curves and meat on their bones they are said to be ugly and what not.
I was so happy to see beautiful Black women like Winnie Harlow who has Vitiligo (which is where areas of your skin is lighter than the rest of your body) Winnie is the most beautiful sista I have ever seen and she is such a nice and graceful woman.
When Miss Harlow burst on the scene and she was confident in herself and who she was that just made her the most beautiful woman in the world. And it made all the sense in the world that she has a doll made in her image to show little girls that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and she has made herself to be the leader industry. She is absolutely stunning.
I just watched on YouTube a video by Asian Boss where they interviewed the 2018 Miss Korea and she talks about that after she won the crown she received a lot of online hate because the Korean public did not think she met the standard of beauty to be Miss Korea. Kim Soo Min is the former winner of Miss Korea and to me she is absolutely beautiful because she cares more about the pain her father felt over the horrible comments about his daughter. That truly says a lot about her as a person and a true testament of how her parents raised her.
Look at Miss Kim Soo Min where does she have any sign of being fat or ugly. But do the type of comments on her Instagram like the one above she closed her Instagram account. What is really sad is that it is truly women bashing other women to make themselves look good or feel good about themselves. Women truly are “crabs in a barrel” mentality and we tend to think that if we hurt another woman it will make us look better. When in reality it only makes us look stupid and inferior. Learning to love yourself is the hardest thing to do. Trust me I know… I am still working on looking at myself in the mirror and loving the person that I am seeing in the mirror. I do not take compliments easy from anyone, but since I have a daughter now I need to do what I gotta do for her so that she will never be self conscious about her looks, hair, weight,etc. She is beautiful and perfect just the way she is because this is how God made her.
So as a woman I am saying to fellow women of the world…. What harm does it cause you to compliment another woman on her outfit, her make up, her hair,etc? How does that take anything away from you? If you are the type of female that likes to trash other females then I suggest that you look in the mirror with a bright ass light and ask yourself why? I pray you HONESTLY answer yourself so that you know what to work on within yourself. Ask God to show you why you must trash others to build yourself up?
Before I start let me say Get your mind out of the gutter LOL. When it comes to a passion that moves me that would be music. I can listen to music and just become a cloud and float away on and array of emotions. Depending on the artist and the lyrics it is the beat that really catches my attention even before he or she opens their mouth. The musically term today is “issa bop” or “issa slap” before it even gets that far it the drums and guitars that move me once I am moved I look for the melody and then the voice to carry it too and end.
Music to me is very personal and felt deep in my soul. When I love a song I will remember the words, lyrics, beat and melody forever. For example Karyn White Super Woman from 1988 is still my go to jam when I am not feeling a situation with my spouse. Back then it was sung for guys that I wanted to break up with or one time when I was 16-17 and my first love asked me to wait on him and I waited 2 years for him come back from New Orleans and when he I saw him at a bus stop and he face fell because he saw me with a guy friend laughing and holding hands going to the mall. I will forever see his face and feel those emotions that I somehow to tied to this song. Granted I was only 13 when this song came out, but when I heard this song it stirs something in me to this day. Funny story I thought of majoring in music in college, but I chose the debate team and a business degree.
I bop my head to Nelly just like I can to Patti LaBelle and the Blue Bells from 1970’s. If it moves me to dance and smile then I don’t care who is singing. I am that type of girl that puts on her head phones I become the music and I feel so good. Music moves my soul in ways no man ever can.